Surrogates Most Frequently Asked Questions
Below is a partial list of some of the more common questions we receive from surrogate candidates. If you have specific questions that you don’t find here, feel free to contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org or please call us at (800) 749-5773 and ask to speak to Deana.
- Can you share the specific qualifications that I must have to be considered to become a gestational surrogate in your program?
- Why should I choose Loving Donation as my Surrogate Agency?
- I have questions about the matching process. Do I get to choose the family I want to assist, or do they choose me?
- Can you tell me more about the medical process involved with being a gestational surrogate?
- Will there be travel involved in becoming a surrogate? Do I have the choice not to travel?
- After I become pregnant, where will I receive ongoing medical care and where will I deliver the baby?
- Have you ever had a family not accept the baby after it is born? Is it possible that I would have to keep the baby?
A. You must:
Have given birth to at least one child of your own.
Have not had any prior pregnancy complications.
Be financially stable and not receiving any type of government assistance.
Have reliable transportation and be willing and able to travel to Orlando, Florida or other locations (at intended parent expense) for screenings and medical testing.
Be able and willing to travel to meet with intended parents.
Live in certain states (click here for a a list) and be a citizen or permanent resident. (you cannot be in the process of becoming a permanent resident).
Be between the ages of 21-37 years of age.
Be a nonsmoker, and have been a nonsmoker for at least six months and not be exposed to second hand smoke in your home or workplace. (you will be tested)
Have an appropriate height and weight to successfully pass medical screening. Your Body Mass Index must be under 35. If you are unsure of your current BMI please
(click here for a BMI calculator).
A I believe that a very significant reason is the fact that all of our surrogate recipients come to us directly from infertility doctor referrals. Why is this important to you? Because doctors know best. The agency that they send their very own patients to, the one that they would send a family member to, is the one they have observed in action. As one of the oldest agencies in the country, founded in 2000, we have worked with and continue to work with the very best infertility physicians in the world. They know the truth, and are not influenced by all the hype. It’s easy to call yourself a surrogate agency on the internet, but its the day to day work that earns the long term respect. The way you handle their patients, the way they see you care for your surrogates, the way you respond to problems and difficult situations when they occur. I just want you to understand that Loving Donation has a stellar reputation nationally for a reason, and that reason is my personal dedication to being the best. We are experienced in our industry, solid financially, and well respected by the infertility community. We are members in good standing of ASRM, and we follow the guidelines set forth by them.
A After you complete your application process, we will review your information and your medical records. Considering this data and the personal choices you made during your application phase, we will begin the matching portion of our service. We’ll present your information to intended recipient families and share with you, for your review, the profile of potential recipient parents who have retained us to assist them in their search for a loving, wonderful surrogate. It’s important to note that we have no waiting period that you must endure to match you with intended parents. We will always have choices of potential recipient parents for you to choose from.
After reviewing the initial information on each other, we’ll begin to select a time for both parties to come to our offices for the initial face to face meeting. The decision to work together must be mutual and the in person match meeting will be guided by our experienced staff to make sure both parties are comfortable with each other. After the initial meeting, you will have time to just let yourself “feel” how the experience was for you and your spouse. After you and the recipient have had some conversation with us, we’ll talk again. If you decide they were perfect for you, and that they represent the type of persons you were hoping to help start a family, we will consider you “matched” and we will remove you from the “available candidates” section on our website. That way, both you and the intendeds can begin to breath a little easier, knowing that phase is complete.
A Just as every recipients journey is different, so is every situation as a gestational surrogate. Most often a gestational surrogacy begins its medical aspect with screening. This usually involves the recipients choice of infertility specialist that they have been working with, and that has made the recipient referral to Loving Donation to begin with. Sometimes, the family will choose a physician near you, and then they will travel to you to join you on your appointments. Blood tests are a routine place to start, followed by medications to synchronize your cycle to that of the ovum donor or the intended mother if she is using her own eggs. Further, the medications will cause your uterine lining to thicken to accept the transferred embryos. Loving Donation is not a medical facility and I prefer to have the physician explain his or her own program specifics to you, that way, you are free to ask questions that only a doctor should be answering.
A Loving Donation is based in Florida, a state which has very favorable laws relating to gestational surrogacy. One area of the law here that recipients are excited about is the ability to have their names put on the birth certificate. This is able to be accomplished by the creation of a pre-birth order which becomes part of the surrogacy contract. Therefore, for this and other reasons, Florida is a very popular location to give birth. Our recipients seek to come to Florida specifically to take advantage of this area of the law. However, there are situations that you may be asked to travel and depending where you and the recipients live, travel may be a part of your surrogacy journey.
A In most cases, you will deliver the baby and receive normal maternity care in your own local area. Its important that the medical care be covered by the specialized surrogate maternity delivery insurance plan that will be used during your surrogacy pregnancy. Part of what we do for you is to handle issues like this. We’ll work directly with the insurance company and your OB and the chosen hospital to supply them with the information and education they need regarding the surrogacy process. We deal directly with the social workers and labor and delivery team at the hospital to help ensure that your needs, as well as the needs of the recipients, are both respected to insure that the birthing process is a stress free, joyful time for all.
A Loving Donation is very proud to say that we have never had a family not accept a baby after it was born. We believe part of this success is because we are very particular about the cases we agree to facilitate, and we are diligent in our processes. One of the primary reasons that Loving Donation only deals in gestational surrogacy is that the law is very clear in this regard. Because you would not have any genetic relationship to the child or children, you would not have any legal rights nor responsibilities towards the child. During the contract phase, the recipients are asked to make decisions regarding these and other issues deciding matters of their estate and their wishes for any children that may be born should the unthinkable occur and both parents lost their lives in a car accident or some other unforeseen tragedy.