Q. What do couples look for in a surrogate?
A. Couples base their decision on different factors. All couples, however, look for a woman who is healthy, has no significant medical or psychological difficulties, is emotionally and mentally stable, conceives easily, and who is responsible and mature enough to realize that the couple is placing an enormous amount of responsibility and trust in her to carry their child.
Q. What types of women become surrogates?
A. To be a surrogate in our program, a woman must be between 21-39 and previously have given birth to a child. The typical surrogate then is in this age range, married, employed, and solidly middle class. The women in our program are generous, caring, healthy women. They become surrogates to help people create families. Unlike other programs that seem as though they will accept anyone who applies, we select approximately 5% of all the women who apply to us. We screen carefully to insure that our surrogates are NEVER totally motivated by the financial aspect. Their fee, which generally is around $20,000 – $30,000 is, of course, a factor, but never do we allow money to be the main reason for their participation. As a matter of fact, certain testing aspects of the surrogates surround that specific issue.
Q. Is the surrogate screened?
A. Absolutely. The surrogates go through a variety of different screening processes as ordered by your reproductive specialists. References are checked, educational and employment statements are verified. Medical records from prior pregnancies are obtained and reviewed. You will be given an ability to discuss with us the summary report of all the investigations, to assist you to make your final decision as to whether the surrogate is acceptable to you.
Q. What are the success rates?
A. “Success” should mean only one thing: the percentage of couples / individuals who actually end up with a baby. Due to the recent advances in Third Party Reproduction there are basically four options open to you. Each of these methods is substantially different from the others and has it’s own rate of success. We are not a medical facility and therefore we suggest that you seek more specific information from the infertility clinic you choose to work with as to their success rates among the various programs.
- Artificial Insemination: In the AI program, the surrogate is inseminated with the sperm of the intended / natural father.
- In Vitro Fertilization: In the IVF program (also known as Gestational Surrogacy) the ovum and sperm of the couple are combined to create embryos that are implanted into the uterus of the surrogate mother.
- IVF & Egg Donation: In the IVF/ED program ovum from a donor is fertilized with the sperm of the intended / natural father. Resulting embryos are implanted into the uterus of the surrogate.
- Egg Donation: Ovum from an egg donor are fertilized with sperm from the intended / natural father and resulting embryos are implanted into the uterus of the intended / recipient mother, who gestates her own pregnancy.
Q. Will the couple and the surrogate meet?
A. Loving Donation encourages “open surrogacy.” The reason for this is simple-our surrogates are not doing this solely for the compensation; they want to know the types of people they are assisting to create a family. Meeting the surrogate allows both sides to make sure that the arrangement will work for them. Most of our couples stay in contact with their surrogate frequently during the pregnancy. Even after the birth, many couples still stay in touch with their surrogates (Christmas cards, Birthday cards, etc.), although for most couples and surrogates the relationship ends after the baby is born.
Q. What is the anticipated amount of my total expenditure?
A. Please go to our Estimated Expenditures page for a complete listing of all fees associated with our egg donation and surrogacy programs.